How to Live Longer Better
  • Your journey
    • What is happening as we live longer >
      • Bad language about older people
    • Your monthly briefing >
      • 2025 4 april
    • The environment is tough >
      • Retirement has benefits and risks
      • Some people got a better start than others
      • the impact of isolation is now recognised
      • The physical environment is the cause of many problems blamed on ageing
      • Poverty affects too many older people
    • the Living Longer Better Programme >
      • what would a good life in your late 80s be likel
      • What do you fear most and want to avoid
      • Start to write your Living Longer Better Plan
      • Think positive
    • How to reduce your risk of a bad death
    • My diary & daily routine
    • My health record
    • My housing
    • Othercare - Supporting someone else
  • Learning
    • U3A
    • Ageing is a normal biological process
    • From 40 to 90 loss of fitness is serious
    • The effects of disease are often compounded by loss of fitness
    • Negative beliefs and attitudes have a huge impact
    • The importance of planning with purpose
    • The Ageing Brain and the Maturing Mind
    • Strength and Power can always be increased
    • Skill and co-ordination can be improved at any age
    • Stamina can be improved by brisk walking
    • Suppleness can always be improved and stiffness always reduced
    • Activity Therapy is of vital importance
  • Get physically better
    • the Daily Dozen + 30 for 4S fitness
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  • FIGHT DISEASE
    • Reduce your risk of disease >
      • Eat Well
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      • We need a revolution
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        • Should i have a hip replacement ?
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        • Loss of status
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        • Learning new skills and build on your assets
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    • Combat depression
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    • Feel even better by helping other people even more
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    • References

Supporting someone else - if people in their 60s, 70s, 80s and 90s stopped caring for other people the NHS would collapse within 24 hours

LOOKING AFTER SOMEONE ELSE 

The most common, and most important type of care is self care, but the second most important type of care is not that provided by the NHS or social services but the care provided by family and friends. People who are 60 and beyond also play a centrally important role in running organisations without pay - voluntary work, without which no society could survive. Furthermore people in their 60s and even in their 70s may be supporting an elderly parent, or two, as well as supporting children and grand children. As is emphasised in the part of the Optimal Ageing Programme focused on volunteering  people in their 60s and beyond have great assets, not financial assets but skills and insights that they have developed from their experience. 

Supporting means supporting people to do things for themselves even though it would be quicker and less stressful just to do it for them. No one likes to see someone struggle to do something but another way to think about struggling is to think of young people training. They are struggling but they are doing so to get fitter and as is emphasised throughout the knowledge provided the need to maintain and indeed improve fitness and ability becomes more important the longer we live  because the effects of the ageing process are to make loss of fitness occur even more quickly if a person is inactive. There is always the worry about risk of course, for example of the person scalding themselves or falling but you need to hold your nerve because  risk is increased by inactivity much more than by activity and a major report produced by a number of leading health organisations had the simple title and final sentence - Benefits Outweigh Risks


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